How Many Different Ways Can A Mother Loose Her Child?

Ever think about how many different ways a mother can loose her child? Some mothers miscarry, or abort their child. Some of us surrender our baby for adoption. The reasons for these actions are varied; sometimes selfish; other times selfless. But how else can a parent loose a child?

My mother had 7 babies. One died the same day he was born. That leaves Mom with 3 boys and 3 girls. Out of these 6, two brothers (and their wives and children) are estranged from my mother and father. How did this happen? My parents say they really don't know. Yet their sons talk badly about them to others. The two sons, and their families, hang together and pass the word that our mother is 'evil'. No one seems to tell the specifics though. That leaves us 3 sisters, and one brother, with our parents' sorrow and our own sorrow. We don't want our parents to suffer this. We suffer the estrangement too because our 2 brothers want nothing to do with us so long as we are in our parents corner.

It's insane. But I have come to the conclusion that I have done all I can do to show my brothers my love for them. If they choose to shun me, because I remain on good terms with our parents, that is their choice. I will not live my life mourning this loss. Yes I miss them. But I will get on with my life knowing that I have done all I can do to show them my love. They know that anytime they want to have a relationship with me, it is what I want.

I gave up one daughter thirty-seven years ago. The pain was never ending, as was the love. I have her back in my life now. I rejoice.

I cannot grieve my parents loss, nor the loss of my brothers and sisters and all our individual families. I leave all this in God's hands. I have shouldered the heartbreak and lonliness of loss all alone for so many years, and now at long last, my daughter is miracously back in my life. Forgive me, but I can only rejoice now.